Thanks for this. I'm intrigued by your approach to socialising, and I'm trying to figure out how this could apply into my own life. I love talking to people when we have a reason to meet. Either I can help improve their life by sharing useful, they can do the same for me, or we can work on something together. Practically speaking that often rotates around work I do (I'm a product designer). Is there a way I could apply this line of thinking to finding folks who could benefit from my work? That feels like selling myself, and I'm not sure if it fits.
Thank you so much for sharing LinkedIn profile and the question!
To be honest, I feel like we always sell ourselves, but we don't have to make it cringe :)
I try to be very honest about my expectations before each meeting:
1. I will ask X from this person
2. I will offer them to work on Y together
3. I will meet them, because they are interesting and I will decide if I will want interact with them later
4....
It helps me prioritise meetings and I started declining more meetings, because it was hard to go to every meeting I wanted to. That's why I started going to those, where I have clear goal. Even if I don't reach it, the sense of purpose was there, which made meetings more productive.
But it doesn't mean I was speaking about the main goal only. I was rather trying to make a comfortable setting, share interesting facts and leave the main question until the very end. By that time you usually know if you want to ask it or not.
Thanks for this. I'm intrigued by your approach to socialising, and I'm trying to figure out how this could apply into my own life. I love talking to people when we have a reason to meet. Either I can help improve their life by sharing useful, they can do the same for me, or we can work on something together. Practically speaking that often rotates around work I do (I'm a product designer). Is there a way I could apply this line of thinking to finding folks who could benefit from my work? That feels like selling myself, and I'm not sure if it fits.
My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jnwold/
Thank you so much for sharing LinkedIn profile and the question!
To be honest, I feel like we always sell ourselves, but we don't have to make it cringe :)
I try to be very honest about my expectations before each meeting:
1. I will ask X from this person
2. I will offer them to work on Y together
3. I will meet them, because they are interesting and I will decide if I will want interact with them later
4....
It helps me prioritise meetings and I started declining more meetings, because it was hard to go to every meeting I wanted to. That's why I started going to those, where I have clear goal. Even if I don't reach it, the sense of purpose was there, which made meetings more productive.
But it doesn't mean I was speaking about the main goal only. I was rather trying to make a comfortable setting, share interesting facts and leave the main question until the very end. By that time you usually know if you want to ask it or not.
Hope this helps!